I was at uni and had to make a quick decison

I found out I was pregnant at the end of my first year of university and was terrified.
I was and am still in a long term relationship which made the decision I made more difficult. My boyfriend reacted badly insisting that I get an abortion as soon as possible as we were only 20 and had uni to think about.
I was confused and felt I had to make a decision quickly therefore rushed into it. I regret it more than anything and have found everyday hard since but have been having counselling to cope which has helped.

I wish I had talked my options through with someone

I felt I didn't have an option at the time. My boyfriend was quite forceful and I think I did it for him mainly and not for me and that's what makes me regret things even more.
I know I can't take back what I did but I hope anyone in the same position can read this and know that its YOUR decision and to talk to someone about your options.
Colleges, schools and universities will help you if you find yourself pregnant and help you to cope, mentally and sometimes financially.

It was the worst mistake of my life

Never have an abortion to please a boyfriend or any guy it should be your decision, but if you still feel like you want an abortion please consider the emotional side affects of it because I didn't realise it before but it was the worst mistake of my life and I would do anything to change it.
So just know you're not alone and talk to someone for ALL your options.

Editor's Comment

I am sorry to hear that you have felt pressurised into making a decision that you didn't really have time to think through. You are now suffering from a lot of sadness and regret, which is quite common when people feel pushed into a quick decision. I would agree with you that it is important to find out all the information and talk to someone impartial before making such a big decision. Careconfidential Helpline, Online advisor and a network of centres are available to help people look at their options, and give accurate unbiased information. You have said that you are receiving counselling which is good. The national helpine can give you more support if you need it. Online advisor and pregnancy centres offer a program called 'The Journey' to women and couples who need post abortion support. Follow the link to find a centre for post abortion support in your area.
This story was sent in on 08/12/2010 and it's been viewed 594 times.

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