I'm 16 and had an abortion 10 months ago.

I'm 16 and had an abortion 10 months ago.
The father of the baby who I was very in love with, wanted nothing to do with it, so I went against my better judgement and aborted my precious baby.
I am now again with the same guy we have been in and out of our relationship for a year and a half and have now decided that we do truly want each other for the rest of our lives.
He now regrets very much telling me to get an abortion and we are thinking of having a baby, for real this time.
I am scared. I want it so badly, I feel like my chance was taken away from me. Yes, I did it, but I did it for all of the wrong reasons.
Now, I feel very empty like something is missing from my life, my body. I am just incomplete. My boyfriend and I are really considering getting pregnant again, this time on purpose.

Editor's Comment

It is sad that you felt pressurised into having an abortion you did not really want. Now you are back with your boyfriend and your longing for another baby is very common after an experience like this. Perhaps you feel you want to replace what you have lost, or maybe try to get rid of the feelings of emptiness and regret. I would encourage you to get some post abortion counselling before you decide to try for another baby. You cannot truly replace what you have lost, and another baby should not be a substitute for your loss, but loved and valued in it's own right. I feel that if you are able to resolve your feelings about the abortion you will be able to draw a line under it and make a fresh start. It will also allow you to try for a baby at the right time for both of you. If you would like some information about post abortion counselling please call the national helpline on 0300 4000 999, or follow the link to find a centre for post abortion support in your area.

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