3 very young children and pregnant again

Hi, well I'm 28 and have 3 children aged 3 , 2 , and 4months old and pregnant again.
I had one abortion due to miscarrying and the guilt and pain I carry everyday hurts so much. I blamed my husband as when I found out I was pregnant he said from day one 'get rid we can't afford another baby'. Unfortunately I agreed and at 7 weeks I miscarried and had to do the 2xs pill thing in abortion clinic.
I am still gutted , AND.. I'm now pregnant again only 5weeks but I believe if you make a life you look after, care, and love the life you made and once again husband is telling me to have an abortion. I really don't want to , :( I'm trying everything to convince him but it's not working. I pray to god I don't have to go thru that again :( *** just make sure you're ok and get counselling if you have an abortion it's a hard thing to do xxxx

Editor's Comment

I appreciate it must be very hard work, demanding and expensive to have 3 such young children. However, this is a decision that you will have to live with long term, and it sounds as though your previous experience has already left you very distressed. I think it would be good to talk your situation through with someone, and expore whether there is a way of being able to work this out. In 9 months you will have one child at school, and one at nursery so things may look different. Please call the national helpline 0300 4000 999, or follow the link to find a centre for crisis pregnancy support in your area.
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