An abortion at 38 years old

Found out I was pregnant at 38 years old, ex partner is 45 years old and he says he is too old for another baby. He told me to get rid of it. I have two children on my own and feel I cannot emotionally cope on my own again.
My last child is for him and he does not support her completely and left me when I was 5 months pregnant with her. I made a silly mistake of getting back with him when she was 3.
He took me to the clinic and after the abortion he left me at the clinic, and will not speak to me or have any contact with his daughter. This has been 4 weeks and I feel so down, I just want my baby back and someone who treats me with respect after working fulltime.

Editor's Comment

You have had a hard time bringing up your two children without any help or support. I can understand your fears when your ex partner was clearly not prepared to support you with this pregnancy. It sounds as though he was pushing you to have an abortion, and it was difficult for you to stand up for yourself. You certainly deserve someone who values you respects you as a person. I hope that you will contact CareConfidential for help and support after your ordeal. You can call the national helpline 0300 4000 999, log on to Online advisor, or follow the link to find a centre for post abortion support in your area.

This story was sent in on 10/04/2012

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