He bullied me into having an abortion

Hi I'm English and I'm with a Moroccan man (not married)I have 4 older children from a previous relationship and after an operation was told that I couldn't have kids.
I met my currant partner a year ago and three months into the relationship I found out I was pregnant. He bullied me into having a chemical abortion and I have regretted it ever since, and hate myself for being so weak. I have religiously taken the pill ever since never missed a day, but I just found out I'm pregnant again despite my efforts not to be. I'm now very scared to tell him because I know he will react like he did last time. I cannot go through an abortion of any kind again, I couldn't cope with it but I know he will try. I don't know what to do.

Editor's Comment

One thing's for sure no one should ever be bullied into a decision to have an abortion. Sometimes it is very hard to stand up to someone who is very forceful and persuasive. If you know that you don't want another abortion, it would help to find some support so that you don't feel you are standing your ground alone. I imagine the bottom line could be that he threatens to leave, and it would help you if you can think how you will react to a 'worst case scenario'. If you would like some support from a pregnancy centre, please contact the national helpline or look on the website to find a pregnancy choices centre in your area.

This story was sent in on 09/05/2013

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