I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and considering having an abortion.I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and considering having an abortion. The baby’s father is my now ex partner. However our relationship lasted a year during which time he was splitting up with his wife (bad idea, I know!). He now wants nothing to do with me, or our baby, and states that I can’t prove it’s his, so I won’t ever get a penny off him. I have a full time job at the moment that offers good maternity benefits if needed. I am 21 years old, and still live at home. Abortion seems the quick way out, but also a decision I know I will regret for the rest of my life. This baby didn’t ask to be conceived, but I didn’t ask to be left to deal with it on my own... :o( Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your story… It sounds as if the hardest thing for you to cope with right now is the abandonment you feel due to your ex-partner’s lack of responsibility for the situation. I think what you need is support, especially when you are smarting from his rejection of both you and your baby. It hurts, doesn’t it? When a woman says things like, ‘Abortion is a decision I know I will regret for the rest of my life’, I know that her heart is speaking, even if it’s hard to explain why she says that. Your heart has spoken. You just need some more courage and that can come with support. I suggest you visit your nearest centre to find out accurate information about all your options – parenting, abortion and adoption. The centre will give you time and space to explore all your feelings thoroughly, even if that exploration simply confirms what you already seem to know deep down. They will encourage and support you for as long as you need.
This story was sent in on 20/08/2007