He spiked my drink and then had sex with me.
Me, him, another girl and one of his friends had pre-drinks at his and then we left, walking to town. Being at sixth form I never really went out or got drunk a lot, this was actually my first time since I had turned 18. I'm usually the one that looks after other people when they get plastered but this night it appeared that he was looking after me.
Even though I hadn't had much to drink, I started feeling really strange so I went to the bathroom, entered a cubical and I remember the walls closing in on me and then expanding. After some water I felt a bit better so carried on as normal. He kept handing me drinks as the night went on and I kept dancing. I then went to sit down and after that it's just black.
I remember nothing from sitting down until waking up at his house with just him and one of his friends. I, however, was completely naked! All sorts of things went through my head - did I throw up on my dress so they took it off so I didn't have to sleep in it? I thought of many things but with him being my best friend I never suspected the worst.
I left and we spoke as normal. It wasn't until March 14th that I did a pregnancy test that came back as positive. I was incredibly shocked and confused as I got with my partner on February 13th and we had sex once so my first thought was that it was obviously his. I had my first scan and it was all going great until the nurse told me I was 3 almost 4 months pregnant. HOW!? I normally have regular periods so the doubt didn't come from that.
The doubt came when I was getting messages asking me 'is it true?' I had no clue what they were talking about so I got them to explain.
My supposed best friend told people at college that he had spiked my drink for a laugh and then we had sex. I was in pieces. I thought of many things that morning but not that. I was unconscious when he did what he did, how could he do that to me? He wasn't even being safe when he did it! I just wanted it to be a nightmare and for me to wake up but I had to face reality so I phoned him and said we needed to speak face to face.
Once we met I told him straight away and asked for an explanation. He laughed. He said that he hoped I was getting rid of it as he wasn't ready for a child yet. I said well what were you doing having sex with me! He said it was good though, we were pretty drunk. I completely lost it. I was unconscious not drunk. He laughed again and it was all just a joke to him.
I couldn't handle being around him any more so we left it at that. How could I bring a baby into this world when it was conceived this way? I had no love for the father whatsoever. He was meant to be my best friend - someone I trusted for 8 years and was still meant to trust.
I booked to have a surgical abortion and told the father. I cried every night up until the night of the abortion. I've always wanted a family of my own but I just couldn't. My partner was my rock. Without him I really don't think I would have been able to get through it.
The day of the abortion I seemed fine to everyone. I just wanted to block all emotions out and for them to never return. My mum stayed with with me through the surgery. She managed to keep my mind off everything and I was surprised I made it through the day without crying.
It's now been almost a year and I am still paying for it. There isn't a day that goes by when I don't close my eyes and think about it. The sadness just takes over and I feel like crying for hours and hours.
I'm now engaged to my partner that has been there through everything and we have set a date for our wedding! So there is good in this horrible situation but I really don't think this will ever leave me. I just need to know when it gets easier because at the moment - I still feel as sad, upset, angry and low as the night before the abortion. I know that many people are going to think that it was my stupid fault for going out drinking but I honestly thought I could trust him with my life. It has taught me not to be so trusting and to only have drinks that I have made.
Editor's CommentThat is a terrible thing to have happened and amounts to rape. I am not surprised you have been struggling with it as this friend betrayed your friendship and abused your trust. You may need some counselling help to come to terms with such a painful experience and I would encourage you to seek help through the national helpline 0300 4000 999, or log onto the confidential Online counselling service.
This story was sent in on 08/01/2015