Hello. Actually I’m waiting for an abortion (Sat.) I’m 24 years old and I’ve been with my partner for two years.
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…It sounds as if you quite like the idea of having a baby at one level, but you are having an abortion because you really don’t want to be tied to this man, aren’t you? That’s the real issue. Something deep down recognises that what’s inside you is of more value than you can understand but this is confused because you feel so negative about your relationship. The two things need to be separated out.
I strongly recommend that you ring the helpline before you go to the clinic/hospital so that you can talk through your ambivalent feelings about the abortion, your relationship and how you can get out of this trap that says you must choose between staying with the father and having the baby or doing neither. There are other creative solutions – you just need courage and support to consider them and then make the decision that you can live with. Ring the helpline today.