Think long and hard before you make a decision to have a child adopted.

Think long and hard before you make a decision to have a child adopted. 26 years ago I had a baby girl adopted and regret every minute. I wish I hadn't done this. I love the father so very much. He is many years older than me and we tried to do the best for all concerned. We miss her more than words can describe. We are married now. We have tried to trace her but all we know is that we have made initial contact with her and all is very quiet now. Oh how I wish she would give us another chance. This we may never have, so before you make this important decision search your soul xx Editor's comment:- Your story describes an enormous sense of loss and grief even after 26 years. You made a very unselfish choice for your daughter, feeling that you wanted to give her a life that you couldn't offer her at the time. It is sometimes hard for an adopted child to take that step of making contact with her birth parents for all sorts of reasons, and it may feel frightening to suddenly change all she has ever known. I hope too that you will have that chance to meet her and be part of her life in some way. Fortunately adoption is a more open process now and birth parents are able to keep letterbox contact with their adopted child. If you would like to speak to an advisor who could support you please ring our national helpline 0300 4000 999.
This story was sent in on 19/01/2010

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