I have 3 children under 4 and I have just discovered I am pregnant again

By anonymous on 15/01/2011
I'm 24 yrs old with 3 children under 4. I split from there father nearly 2yrs ago and have been with my current boyfriend for 10 months.
Things are going great and he is brilliant with my children. Their dad doesn't see or pay for them.
Me and my boyfriend have been talking about moving in together and were planning to do so next month.
I've just discovered that I am pregnant and neither me or my boyfriend were ready for this especially as I already have enough on my hands with 3 little ones. We are considering having an abortion but I've had one before when I was 18 and in a violent relationship and the guilt and upset I went through after that was awful and I am not sure I could handle it again. I really don't know what to do for the best

Editor's Comment

You have obviously got a busy life with 3 children under 4 so I can understand your shock at another pregnancy. I think it would be helpful to talk this through with an advisor. You need to understand where the guilt and upset was rooted when you were 18. Did you always feel uncomfortable about abortion? Did your violent relationship compound the problem? What effect is an abortion going to have on your present relationship? It is sometimes harder to consider abortion when you are in a longterm committed relationship. If you would like to talk this through you can call the national helpline 0300 4000 999, log onto Online advisor, or follow the link to find a centre for crisis pregnancy support in your area.

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