He doesn't want anything to do with me or the baby.

By anonymous on 12/07/2012
I'm 17 and found out I was pregnant for the first time about 2 weeks ago. I had been feeling poorly for a while and then decided to take a pregnancy test. I took 2 just for sure and they were both positive.

I told my boyfriend and the first thing he said was that I was having an abortion. I didn't know what to do at this point.
The next day he took me to the family planning clinic, and the following Thursday I had to go for a consultation. I told him that I wanted to keep it, and he was just getting angry saying it would wreck his life and that HE didn't want the child.
I didn't have a choice.
So I went on the Thursday and it was the worst experience of my life. I had to have all these tests done, and it was full of other people going to have an abortion. I was crying my eyes out.
I went in for the ultra sound and that is when I realised I couldn't get rid of this baby. I thought I was only 4 weeks but I was actually 11 weeks, so that meant I had to have it removed not just a pill.
The abortion was booked 2 weeks later, and I decided not to go.
I only went in the first place because of my boyfriend. He doesn't want anything to do with me or the baby when it arrives, but he's obviously not man enough.
All I'm saying is do what you feel is right, not because someone has told you to do it.
I learnt the hard way. It is YOUR decision. xx

Editor's Comment

I am glad you felt able to change your mind when you realised that it was not the right decision for you. It takes a lot of courage to stand up to pressure and to opt out when you feel the process has been started. It is a good message for everyone to know that they can opt out at any stage in the assessment time if they change their mind. I hope that you will be able to get the support that you need but please contact CareConfidential if you would like to talk to someone about support through your pregnancy.find a centre for pregnancy support in your area.

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