I'm 40 years old and I just found out I'm pregnant again

I'm 40 years old and I just found out I'm pregnant again (probably 4 or 5 weeks).
I already have 2 children (4 and 11).I am in shock.
My husband is 51 in about 2 months, I will lose my job and I have no luck finding a new job at this time.
I feel we are not financially fit and just too old for another baby. My body took an incredible hit when I was pregnant with my 2nd baby and I was 5 years younger.
I consider abortion but I have very strong religious beliefs. I am very scared, shocked and conflicted. I haven't been able to stop crying for the last two days. I need help...

Editor's Comment

You do need help to think this through and make a decision that you are comfortable with. If your religious beliefs go again abortion, then this could be a very difficult and painful option for you.
It may help you to look at your financial situation and think through how you can cope. It is also important to see what support network you have and whether you can get more help. If you would like to talk this through with a pregnancy choices advisor please call the national helpline 033 4000 999, or log into the confidential counselling service for unplanned pregnancy support.
This story was sent in on 17/02/2014

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