My name is E. I fell pregnant at the age of 15 and had my beautiful baby girl a week after my 16th birthday.By anonymous on 12/11/2007
My name is E. I fell pregnant at the age of 15 and had my beautiful baby girl a week after my 16th birthday. When I found out, I had no idea what to do. I felt like I was going to disappoint my whole family. I spent all day crying. When I told the father he was shocked too. He was quite older than me and was afraid he might get in trouble. He asked me not to tell anyone but now that I am at college and getting on with my life without his help, I am starting to wonder why I am protecting him. He is not here looking after his child, it is my mother and she deserves to know the truth. I don't love him and I want to tell my mum but am not sure of my mom’s reaction as she knows him. He also said that he will tell her but I haven’t heard from him since I was 6 months pregnant. He doesn’t even care to know he has a daughter. Please reply.
Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your story with us. It sounds as if your boyfriend was really quite scared by the prospect of a pregnancy and what that might mean for him, having been in a relationship with a much younger girl. He may just be trying to ignore the situation, running away from it, rather than taking responsibility and facing the choice of whether to commit to his child as a father. For you, it seems you are fully reconciled to having your daughter and have come through this change in your life well. It might help you to talk through with someone how you feel about the father’s lack of involvement and make some decisions about what to do. As I think you may be in the States, you can call Optionline on 800 – 395 – HELP to find this support.