I am a normal 14 year old girl - but I have a 6 month old daughter!
August of 2012, I came home from a summer stay with my dad. My best friend (and neighbor) for 7 years had come to stay with us for the summer. I hadn't seen him in like 2 years, so I was really quiet and standoffish around him. Well, one night we were watching American Pie. It was 1:00 A.M. and I was tired. I went to be alone. A few hours later he came into my room. I didn't think that this would happen between us. I mean we had talked about being a family when we were younger but I didn't really think it would happen. He came and got into my bed with me. He started feeling me and touching me in places that were never touched before. I didn't say no because we had always said that we were going to lose our virginity to each other.
We had sex that night and never looked back on it.The next day, we were as if nothing had ever happened. We were completely normal.
Two months later, they moved into an apartment. We didn't really talk much after that. School had started so I was going on about my usual athletic programs. For then it was volleyball. I was the star player on the team. I was doing extra training to be ready for the track team in April.
As time went by, I started to become tired all the time.I stopped getting to the school bus on time. I didn't want to walk anywhere. All I wanted to do was sleep and eat. My mom knew there was something wrong. I started gaining weight but I never really gave it much thought since I was on the volleyball team. I just would run extra laps after practice and walk more around the neighborhood.
One day in October 2012, my mom pulled me aside in the house. She had a pregnancy test. She asked me if I was pregnant. I told her no!! I could never be pregnant!!She kept asking me the same question for a week. Then she randomly asked me to take a pregnancy test. It took me 2 1/2 hours to take that test. She got the results off of 5 drops of pee.(no more, no less) She called his mom and told her. His mom asked him about the whole situation and he said he knew nothing. About ten minutes later they called back and he explained everything to her, how this whole thing was his fault but he didn't know that I was pregnant. I went to the Dr. the next morning. My mom and I found out that I was 3 months pregnant.
The rest of the pregnancy was just me and my mom. We didn't really hear from him or his family unless they were saying that I was lying about being pregnant from him. When my baby girl was born in April of 2013, he was there. I had my mom call them at 4:00 A.M. and let them know that I was in labor. (I had already been in labor for like 20 hours by then)
When he first saw her, he had this look of shock on his face.She looked exactly like him. He held her in his arms and just looked at her. She smiled at him and he looked at me. He stayed with us for about 3 hours that day. When it was time for us to come home, we called them to let them know that he didn't have to come back to the hospital. They came over to our house every other day and stayed for like 3 hours every visit. As she got older, the less they came by.
My baby is now 6 months old. I have someone who I am talking to (in a way). He knows that I have a baby. His mom just loves us and we go over there whenever we can. My daughter has not spent that kind of quality time with her daddy in like 4-5 months. She has seen his mom, sister, and everybody else, but not him. She is living her life though. She is babbling so she says "Dada" a lot. I am back in school and enjoying my friends and the time that I have just to be a normal 14 year old girl.
One day, he is going to wish that he was apart of this baby's wonderful life.
Editor's CommentIt is sad that your baby's dad has faded out of her life, after wanting to be involved at first. I agree that he may regret this when he is older and perhaps has another child.
Life must be very different for you as a 14 year old mum and I admire your courage. I do hope that you are able to finish your education and reach your full potential. It may be hard but not impossible with plenty of support.