I'm 18. I've just found out I'm two months pregnant. This couldn't have happened at a worse time.By anonymous on 05/02/2008
I'm 18. I've just found out I'm two months pregnant. This couldn't have happened at a worse time. My boyfriend isn't making a lot of money; I am in the middle of applying to university and I am the most un-maternal girl in the world. But I don't want to get rid of it.
Part of me is thinking having a baby at this stage in my life is the most unpractical thing ever, that I should wait a few years until my boyfriend and I are ready. But then another part of me thinks, ‘Oh, my God, I have a little life inside of me, a tiny heartbeat’. If I got rid of it, I would always wonder what he/she would have been like, what would their life have turned out like? I don't know what to do. People look down on teenagers who are pregnant. But what really is so wrong about it? I think I want this baby now.
Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your feelings about your pregnancy…You have already identified the two aspects of your feelings – your head sees all the circumstances and the potential problems; your heart sees the meaning of the pregnancy, the ‘tiny heartbeat’. It’s important for you to find out exactly how you could be supported at university, practically and financially, if you chose to pursue the pregnancy, and also to understand fully what’s involved in an abortion.
You can do this at your nearest pregnancy centre, by ringing the helpline or using Online Advisor. You can talk it through in a safe environment, have the opportunity to be fully informed and explore your deeper feelings thoroughly, together with your boyfriend if you wish, so that you don’t make a decision based on fear or panic, or one based purely on your circumstances. Let us know how you get on – we’ll be thinking of you.