A medical abortion at 13 weeks for foetal abnormality
I went for medical as I was told most people go for that and I wanted to avoid the anaesthetic.
My experience was horrific and I would not recommend the medical procedure.The pain, which the young midwife told me was like a period pain, was actually agonizing!
They basically put you into premature labour and you have to give birth into a bed pan over the toilet. When the baby passed it was around the size of a lemon. Apart from the obvious deformity, the baby was formed in every way. It was extremely traumatic. I was in the toilet with the pan and my dead foetus, able to touch it and look at it. Something which will stay with me for life. I then had to stay for 2 hours after and then went home.
Within 2 days I was in agony, I was given antibiotics for a pelvic infection which made the pain no better. After 2 weeks and several gp visits I was sent for a scan.
A scan confirmed that part of the placenta was still growing inside me.I had lost nearly 1 and half stone in the 2 weeks, and felt dreadful. I was rushed in for an emergency procedure and had to stay overnight as I did not come out of the anaesthetic very well due to being so ill before hand.
So I had to have the anaesthetic anyway! This was by far the best method and I wish I had done this in the first place. I am still not eating the way I was before hand, and have changed my diet completely.
I don't feel 100% yet physically, 4 weeks on, and emotionally I feel that there is something missing in my life and need to give something back. Like maybe doing some charity work. I think if I had had the surgical procedure first of all, I would be in a very different place emotionally and physically right now! I hope that I have helped anyone who is faced with this dilemma, and hope to be able to put this behind me as we go into a new year. Thanks for reading.