I am now finally mourning all my losses
I believe all this pain and sadness goes back to my father passing away. My mum and him divorced when I was 10, I think in the remaning years of his life I probably saw him about 15 times. When I was 17 I found out that he had passed away. This has affected everything in my life up until now, I don't think I have ever properly dealt with my feelings. I couldn't properly focus on school, dropped out of university.
I met B just before we both went to uni. When I dropped out of uni we were several hundred miles apart. I couldn't face it, I began to pull away from him, stopped returning his calls, it was as if I felt that I wasn't good enough for him, this broken person. I tried to hide it, put on my "happy face" everyone thought I was ok. I made one the biggest mistakes of my life beginning a relationship with a man I will call H who was nowhere near to my ideal, I became pregnant and denied it for 12 long weeks. At this time I was also still seeing B casually (on my part). I told B and a close friend about my abortion.
I still have the memory of the scan picture etched into my mind.I cried when I woke up from the anaesthetic. I went to work the following day and plastered on my "happy face" again.
B stuck by me the whole time I allowed him to be there for me, he put me back together again. I was in love, and up until August 10th I was beginning to feel happy again. Then I found out I was pregnant, I knew because I didn't want to smoke or eat meat. At nine weeks I had another abortion. I wanted to carry on with this pregnancy but B said we were too young, I thought that maybe because I knew it was his and we were happy it would turn out all right. But the reasons were still there.
This abortion has brought all the pain that I've been hiding away inside me out.