An abortion for foetal abnormality

Last October I went for my 14 week scan and I was so happy and excited to see my baby . Having just told my family the week before that we where expecting our 2nd child and couldn't wait to show off my gorgeous scan pics.
We sat in the waiting room after waiting to get my pregnancy notes back, 5 mins past then 10. I thought something might be wrong then 20 mins past then 30 and I knew, that thing I saw on the scan, the large area at the back of my baby's neck.

Then the doctor called us through and told us that our baby had Chromosomal abnormalities

My head was spinning, I couldn't understand why it had to be my baby, why me? I thought things like this mainly happened to older women, but I'm only 20 and the chances of it happening to someone my age were so slim I never thought it would. The next day we went back for more scans and tests. I was told there was very slim chances of my pregnancy passing 30 weeks, and after a lot of tears and talking me and my husband decided that aborting the baby was the best thing for us as well as our baby. It was a very traumatic experience for me. A year later and I still can't get over it. I miss my baby even though I never met him/her. I want them back. I want to hold my baby even for just one day. I have been trying to hide my feelings and get on with my life but I can't. I've decided that it is now time to get some help.

Editor's Comment

You have been through a very painful and sad experience and I'm glad you have decided to get some help. Abortion for foetal abnormality is very traumatic and your grief and loss is still very evident. Please contact one of our centres or the helpline if you have not managed to get the help you need. Our advisors have training and experience to help women like you through this very difficult time. You can call the national helpline 0300 4000 999, log on to Online advisor, or follow the link to find a centre for post abortion support in your area.
This story was sent in on 01/11/2011

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