My husband wants me to have an abortion

I am 33 and have two wonderful daughters. I am currently five weeks pregnant and my husband wants me to have an abortion.
I have always wanted another child so find this idea really hard to accept.
I had an abortion aged 19 and have never forgiven myself for what I did.
I really do not know what to do, if I keep the baby my husband will resent it, and if I have this abortion I feel as though our marriage is over.
I do understand why he wants to get rid of it but I just don't feel as though I can.

Editor's Comment

You are obviously feeling very trapped and there is no easy solution to the difficulty you are facing. I think what you have said about the abortion option is true. It would be a very difficult choice for you, it may compound the guilt you felt after your previous abortion, and may also cause such distress that your relationship will not survive.
Your husband obviously has his own reasons for feeling that abortion is the best option and he needs to be heard as well, but equally challenged to think through possible consequences.
I would encourage you to talk to someone impartial together so that you can think this through from both of your perspectives. You have so much to lose in terms of your family if this decision tears you apart. Please follow the link to find a centre for crisis pregnancy support in your area.
This story was sent in on 31/07/2012 and it's been viewed 634 times.

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