Yesterday I had a medical abortion at 9 weeks and 4 days.
I found out I was pregnant after around 2 weeks of back pain and just generally feeling ill. I went to my local NHS drop in centre to see if they could help me as both me and my partner knew that it wasn't the right time to have a baby. They explained that there was nothing they could do, and I needed to see my own GP, I was scared and worried, I didn't know how far gone I was I didn't know anything about having an abortion.
I was frantically searching google typing everything in, in hope someone would help me!I finally come across the BPAS (British pregnancy advice service) website and called them up straight away. Naturally I was scared and reluctant to give any of my details as I didn't want anyone to find out.
The lady on the other end of the phone was so understanding and she knew what I was going through - I'm 21 and never in a million years thought this would happen to me! She took my details and got me an appointment the next day with my local hospital! I felt so relieved!
I went to the 1st appointment and had my scan.
I was 7 weeks and 5 daysAll I could think was wow! How can I be this far on and not even know about it? They gave me lots of information and took some bloods and a urine test. They asked me if I was sure it was what I wanted and proceeded to book the abortion, they wanted to fit me in the following week but due to work I couldn't, they understood and booked me in for 2 weeks away!
It was over in around 15 minutes, they explained what would happen.
I went back on the Monday morning and they gave me the 1st tablet along with an anti sickness tablet, they explained that I could experience some spotting and this was normal but if I was to vomit in the first 2 hours of taking the tablet I should go back. I was lucky and didn't experience any of these things. I went to work that afternoon and carried on as normal.
The abortion day was on Wednesday! I was told that I would not be able to drive so it's best if someone is with you. I was hoping to go home, but because I was past 9 weeks I had to stay until the fetus had passed. They took me and my partner through to a room which had a bed and 2 chairs and en-suite bathroom/shower.
The nurse come in and explained that I would need to take 2 antibiotics, 1 anti-sickness tablet & 2 painkillers orally, and 4 vaginal tablets which I could insert myself. She explained that the vaginal tablets don't dissolve and could come out at any stage but not to worry.
I took the tablets around 10am and felt fine. Around 12 I started with abdominal pains, just like a slight period pain. The nurse put a bedpan in the toilet and explained that when i needed the toilet everything should be done in the bedpan - so they can check when it's been passed.
I started bleeding around 1 and had severe pain!Pain like I had never experienced before!
I couldn't lie down or sit down - the only comfortable position for me was being sat on the toilet. I had my head on the sink and was in excruciating pain!! I couldn't speak just scream! All of a sudden I became very hot and felt like i was going to die! I called for the nurse who brought me stronger pain killers!
I stripped off all my clothes and was just throwing cold water over myself! I felt terrible then came the sickness! I filled a bed pan with sick ! I couldn't stop. I passed several large blood clots but the nurse assured me I had not yet passed the fetus.
The hot sweats kept coming and going - one minute I was hot the next I was freezing. I decided to go for a walk around the room then lay on the bed - that lasted around 3 minutes! Then I was up and back on the toilet ! Why wouldn't this pain stop? PLEASE!
I sat down and felt a pop below followed by a sudden gush like I had had a wee. And the pain stopped. Don't get me wrong i still had a mild period pain but not half as bad as it had been for the past 2 hours. The time was 3.30pm. I managed to stand up and checked the bed pan! I wanted to be sure as I didn't want to keep mithering the nurse. And there it was - in between all the clots a fetus.
No one told me I would pass a fetus!It was around 1 inch and had arms and legs and fingers and toes. I was FREAKED! And started to scream. My partner got the nurse who confirmed it was ALMOST over! I still had to pass the placenta. All that blood wasn't the placenta. Luckily the pain was still eased and they let me go home around 4pm.
I went home and got in bed - around 6pm I felt pressure down below and passed the placenta. Even though I obviously passed the fetus - I still need to go back for a scan to be sure.
Today I haven't moved. I feel drained & have been bleeding heavily and passed a lot of clots. I have had abdominal pain but mild. Hopefully it was ease tomorrow.
I hope everyone reading this understands that all abortions are personal and that not everyone will have an experience like mine but just be aware it could be a possibility.