I let him sleep with me without a condom.
By anonymous on 24/08/2013I was 14 years old when I fell in love with my ex boyfriend. We hadn't been together long but I was young and completely smitten, I'd never felt this way about anyone before.
A few months into our relationship he told me he wanted me to have his baby. Me being completely besotted and blinded by love let him sleep with me without a condom, I didn't really think anything would come of it because I didn't really understand about pregnancy and the human body.
It was August 2008 when I began being sick every day. I thought I was just unwell but my mother suggested I take a pregnancy test. I was thinking don't be so ridiculous, I can't be pregnant! But of course, there they were, two little lines on that stick.
I didn't know how to feel, I was confused and scared and excited all at once.It was almost immediately that my mum and my boyfriend told me it was for the best if I abort. He said 'if you have this baby it will tear us apart' and things to that effect - how could he say this after he told me he wanted this?! I was so confused... So my doctor sent me for a scan but I guess I didn't make it clear enough that I wasn't going to be keeping the baby - I was sent to the hospital for my scan and they showed me the screen as the midwife rolled the ultrasound probe across my belly.
I was 14 weeks pregnant. I felt so happy and full of excitement and joy when I saw my little baby on the screen, I forgot all about the abortion. However, my parents and partner still pushed me to it and my mum booked me in at a private clinic for a surgical abortion. The first time I was meant to have the surgery I chickened out and couldn't go through with it. The second time I went back is the day it was done and I was 15 weeks 3 days. As they were putting me to sleep I said please stop I've changed my mind... To which a masked doctor replied that it was too late.
For four years I grieved the loss of my baby until I finally sought counselling.Just as I was finally coming to terms with it I have found myself pregnant again and for the last 7 weeks I have been beating myself up trying to decide what to do for the best.
This baby's father is very emotionally abusive and disturbed and I don't know if I can handle having him in my life forever, bound by this child.
I am 11 weeks roughly and I am booked for a consultation (scan etc) next week and I'm not sure if I will be able to go through the termination itself after how much the first ruined my mental health. If you are considering abortion - please make sure it is what you want and you make the choice for yourself, no one else.
Editor's CommentThat was a very difficult experience to go through at 14. Your boyfriend didn't seem to have any intention of actually having a baby, but you were too young to see beyond his romantic words. It is very sad that you were unable to make your own decision and I suppose your parents felt that they were making the right choice for you.
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