A positive and honest story about medical abortion.
I've never wanted children, I suffer from depression and I've just started a degree, and my boyfriend and I both decided it would be better for us both if I had a termination. It wasn't a decision we took lightly and we did discuss keeping it but this was the right decision for us at this time. I had really bad nausea and I couldn't do much for a few weeks between finding out I was pregnant and actually having the termination.
The NHS clinic I went to was very good, I wouldn't say it was excellent as they have given me medicine (antibiotics) I was allergic to to take at home but luckily I read through the leaflet before I took them, phoned up the centre and they advised not to take them. Really that was the only flaw , the rest of the experience was fine, everyone was friendly and sympathetic. I was absolutely terrified before I took the second pill but luckily my boyfriend was very supportive.
I would advise to have someone with you when you go to the clinic as it can be overwhelming. After the second pill I started to cramp very quickly, within about 10 minutes. I experienced very strong cramps, pains in my lower back and tops of legs for about an hour inspite of taking codeine, ibuprofen, and paracetamol.
**The pain wasn't unbearable but it wasn't pleasant**.
I scrunched myself up into a ball and closed my eyes and just waited for it to stop. After an hour the pain subsided and I started to bleed. There was a steady flow of blood and I could feel some lumps coming out as well. I didn't look at what was coming out. For the next 4 days I would cramp and then bleed heavily with some clots. It was unpleasant but not unbearable. The morning sickness actually went the first day.
Today is the 5th day after the abortion and I've not had to take any painkillers , I'm bleeding lightly and not cramping. As I suffer from depression I was worried I would be quite low and emotional but infact I feel fine mentally. It was a tough decision to make, the experience wasn't exactly a walk in the park but it also wasn't as terrible as I thought it was going to be. The pain was bearable and although I did have a few tearful moments I feel a lot more positive today. I was lucky that I had my boyfriend to look after me and a lot of family support.
Editor's CommentThanks for sharing your experience which you describe as unpleasant but not unbearable. I am sure having the support of your boyfriend and family really helped. You can call the national helpline, log on to Online advisor, or follow the link to find a centre for post abortion support in your area.
This story was sent in on 28/12/2013