I was told I am insane and that I can't keep the baby

My dad and aunt met my boyfriend he said he was willing to have a baby. He is not married and does have other babies. A year and a half ago he wanted to marry me, but they said no I should finish university first. I got pregnant in my final year. When I went home to tell them that really this guy will keep to his word, I was told I am insane and that I can't keep the baby.
It's been months since it happened. The guy has lost faith in my family saying they probably look down on him and they want me to date someone with a degree and not diploma.
I can tell I have lost the man I love and my baby. I love kids. The situation wouldn't have been ideal probably but I wouldn't feel so empty, lonely and depressed especially because no counselling was done, and my family carries on as though everything is normal. I still cry and regret it, worse I can't turn back the hands of time.

Editor's Comment

It is always sad when you feel that you have been pressurised into a decision like this. Although I am sure your family have your best interests at heart, the emotional pain and loss you are feeling from this can be very destructive. You also sound locked into this because your family are carrying on as though nothing has happened. I think that counselling would be good for you and it is available through the national helpline 0300 4000 999, or for post abortion support.
This story was sent in on 16/04/2014

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