My husband said he wasn't sure another baby was the answer.
By anonymous on 07/05/2014I find it hard to write the words - I am now 44 and have a 21 year old son. I got married at 19 and had my son at 23. I was so happy and in love. My world fell apart when my son was 7 months old - I was 12 weeks pregnant second time around although not planned I thought everything was ok- I went for my scan - but my husband didn't come with me which was odd. It was Xmas eve when he told me he didn't know how he felt about me anymore. I was devastated I was a new mum with my baby and couldn't believe what I was hearing.
Editor's CommentIt is terrible that your husband coerced you into a decision like that purely for his own benefits. It's not unusual for another big loss to trigger that grief reaction that has been lying hidden, but I would say that you should not be blaming yourself for not being stronger. In your early 20's you probably thought that your marriage was very important, and had no idea what was happening behind your back.
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