I found out I was pregnant a little over two weeks ago.
I found out I was pregnant a little over two weeks ago. I'd been in and out of doctors for a couple of weeks with unexplained pelvic pain, I'd done a pregnancy test which was negative so I wasn't worrying too much, I trusted my doctor would find the cause of the discomfort. One day at work I had gone and bought one of my favourite things to eat as I wasn't feeling 100% and when I tasted it it just didn't taste right and I didn't eat it. I didn't think much of it and done a second pregnancy test when I got home just in case and didn't for a second seriously expect it to be positive. I've been with my boyfriend properly for just over 3 months (we dated for 2 months first) and this really isn't what I wanted to be happening in such an early relationship I completely felt as though it would ruin our relationship either way whatever we decided. I called my mother and she said it was totally up to me if I told him or not. I decided I had to tell him as soon as possible. He came down straight away and has not left my side since. The following Monday we went and I had my consultation with bpas (British Pregnancy Advisory Service), it was upsetting but we'd both talked it through inside out and although we are happy and in love it's just not the right time. I had a scan which showed a sac but they didn't get a great view of it as it was so small and I was 4 weeks and 5 days at the time of the scan so I was booked in the following Monday for a second scan and the first part of the treatment. My partner stayed with me the whole time and that week was stressful but we coped and the week just gave us more time to feel at peace with our decision. This Monday just gone I went in for part 1 of the abortion at 5 weeks 5 days. I had my scan which went fine and then I was given the tablet and sent on my way. All of the women were very nice and comforted me whilst I was upset and listened to me, they were all lovely staff I can't stress that enough. I felt fine, a few twinges here and there but I went to work and sat there for 8 hours completely ok. When I got home I fell a bit ill, I was very sick for about 2 hours bringing up everything in my system and although my body wanted to continue to be sick there was nothing left and eventually I fell asleep after exhausting myself with that. I called the helpline and they said this wasn't concerning. The next morning I went in for part 2. I insert the tablets inside myself and went home to rest. The cramps started as I was getting out the car once we'd got home but didn't get really intense for another 2 hours, I hadn't even started to bleed yet (I bled after 3 hours of using the tablets) and the pain was unbearable I was crying and clutching a hot water bottle feeling as though it was never going to pass, but it did eventually. The painkillers kicked in and eased the pain, about an hour after the bleeding started it was quite heavy and I was passing clots more often than not. Once those couple of hours passed I was able to sleep for an hour or so which made me feel a lot better. I woke up at 5am on the Wednesday morning and I had extremely bad diarrhoea and I was being sick at the same time (not the best) but it passed within half an hour and I was able to go back to sleep. I am now on Saturday and it does get easier but there is a period every day where I get extremely painful cramps which reduces me to tears sometimes but they do pass and each day last for less time. Today I've had some pain, clots and diarrhoea. In all honesty it's not as easy as a 'painful period' for me at all but it is better each day and that's important. I know our decision was the right one, I don't regret it but I certainly will learn from it and when we do have children this experience will make me cherish them even more. One thing I will say to anyone who is going ahead with medical abortion is please don't do it alone. I don't know what I'd have done without the support of my partner, he has looked after me so much and supported me. Even if it's not your partner make sure you at least have a friend to confide in and help you because it is a very difficult thing to go through.
Your medical abortion sounded quite hard for you physically. You are told that the medication can make you vomit but many women don't experience this. The unbearable pain also sounded hard to handle and probably quite frightening. I hope you continue to recover well and please get in touch with CareConfidential if you need some post abortion support or just someone to talk to. for post abortion support. or 0300 4000 999 for the abortion helpline.
This story was sent in on 04/10/2014
I wish to share my concerns about a BPAS abortion clinic.