I am 14 and had an abortion in November 2014.

I am 14 and had an abortion in November 2014. I can't lie I regret it sometimes and what I feel is so hard. So let me tell you my story.
Back in August of this year I had sex with my boyfriend. It was my first time and I didn't think I would get pregnant. So we continued having sex for 2 months after that day. I didn't think much of it, but my breasts got bigger and I began to get sick. Then on a non related topic I went to the doctors. During my check up I got a pregnancy test. The test came back positive.
I found out that Tuesday, and then that night told my boyfriend. At the time abortion was the only option and my mum scheduled one for that Friday.
That Wednesday and Thursday were the hardest days of my life. I felt like I wanted to keep my baby. I talked to my boyfriend and we decided that at our age I should terminate my pregnancy. So that Friday morning I had one final talk with my boyfriend before my appointment.
Once the actual procedure began I went to sleep. Today the day after I kinda regret. I woke up and cried.
I can't help but think about who they would become. How my life would change. And honestly none of the problems that could happen can compare to the feelings I have now.
I know I had my boyfriend and family's support. I still feel more alone and sad than ever. And at the time I though I was doing the right thing. So I hope you learn from my story that you don't think you have to do this. Abortion is not wrong but no matter how old you are, it may not be right for you. I regret my decision and I don't want you to.

Editor's Comment

It is really hard when you feel that the decision you made was the wrong choice, and you cannot turn the clock back. When you are 14, you are still under the authority of your parents/guardians, and so it is hard to make a decision against what they feel is right for you. It would be worth getting some post abortion counselling and support, and also having a contraception appointment. Some people do think that you cannot get pregnant the first time you have sex, but it is untrue and you should always use protection unless you are actively trying to get pregnant.
This story was sent in on 29/11/2014

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