I'm at a crossroads. I found out I am pregnant yesterday.By anonymous on 04/03/2008
I'm at a crossroads. I found out I am pregnant yesterday. I’m 42 with two grown up children. My husband and I split up five years ago and I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for two years. My partner has had to go away abroad for two weeks and I’ve been left to my own thoughts. My partner does not want children yet and has asked me to have an abortion.
It’s very different for me as I’m not getting any younger. I have only one ovary and I have a large dermoid cyst attached to it, which needs to be removed asap but would include the removal of my last ovary. I would like to have my partner’s baby, but with my health matters and lack of any support from him or family that know my situation and the risk of being homeless, I feel that I have no choice but to go ahead with an abortion on Monday that I know, deep in my heart, will affect me for the rest of my life. This is my last chance to ever have another baby. I wish I could be stronger.
Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your story with us…I realise that you may have gone ahead with the abortion procedure now and I wonder how you are. For you, the dilemma has been about your relationship on one side and on the other, a pregnancy that represents your last chance for motherhood again before you have to relinquish your fertility on health grounds.
For many women, the desire to keep the relationship intact leads to the pregnancy being given up, but the pain of that can come through strongly afterwards, making the relationship strained and difficult to maintain anyway. Whether or not you went ahead with the abortion, you may need some support. Please ring the helpline, visit a centre or use Online Advisor to help you through this time.