I am a mother of three year old twins and split up with their father two years ago.
I am a mother of three year old twins and split up with their father two years ago. I have a new boyfriend of four months who I have known for a while. I have just found out that I am currently six weeks pregnant and have no idea what to do. My boyfriend is leaning more towards abortion but I don’t think I can go through with it. I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t want an abortion.
Editor’s note: Thank you for writing in…It sounds as if you have negative feelings about the idea of an abortion and it’s very important that you don’t try to suppress these feelings or rationalise them away. Even if you can’t say what it is about abortion that you seem to be uncomfortable with, it is not advisable to ignore such an instinctive response in order to fit in with what someone else wants for you.
It would help you a great deal to visit your nearest centre, with your boyfriend, to talk through you options thoroughly, get all the information you need, have space and time to express your individual thoughts and feelings about the pregnancy and communicate clearly to each other what it is you both want. Only then can you make a decision that is not based on fear, panic and assumptions about what the other person thinks and feels. You can be supported in building a future as parents of this child if you wish. Please contact your nearest centre as soon as possible.