My experience at a Marie Stopes clinic was upsetting and stressful but not unbearable

I just wanted to share my experience of a medical abortion for those who are about to go through it. I know there are some scary stories out there but I hope mine will help.

I found out I was pregnant at around 6 weeks. I was absolutely devastated because this wasn’t the right time for me and my partner. I was in my final year at university studying to become a nurse and my partner had just started a new job. We also weren’t financially stable. However, we sat down and decided together on abortion.

Marie Stopes advised a medical abortion

I was so frightened about what to do next but my partner really helped calm me. I contacted Marie Stopes at which the nurse on the phone advised me to have a medical abortion.

2 days later I received a phone consultation from a nurse who talked me through the procedure and booked my appointment. Unfortunately, I had to wait 2 weeks! And these were the worst of my life.

Abortion procedure at Marie Stopes

When I arrived at the clinic all the staff were really friendly, I got called into my appointment at which I had to have the relevant checks and a scan.

The nurse advised taking the abortion pills over two days

At this point, I was 8 weeks. The nurse advised me to take the first medication and come back the next day for the following medication. When I got home I had no symptoms, I carried on as normal.

The following day I was scared again as I didn’t know what to expect. The nurse gave me 4 pills to place at the top of my mouth/gums and told me to let these dissolve for 30 minutes. Once that time was up I was to then wash what was left with some water.

I got home around 30 minutes later and I then swallowed what was left of the tablets with some water.

Intense cramping

Around an hour later I had some pretty intense on and off cramping but nothing worse than my usual period cramps. I took some ibuprofen which really helps! It took the edge off. At this point, I’d say the pain was more of an annoyance.

Bleeding started approx 4 hours after taking the medication

I didn’t start bleeding until almost 4 hours after I had taken the medication. But by this point, the pain had increased, although I wouldn’t say it was unbearable. I highly recommend getting a hot water bottle as this helped me throughout.

I then took paracetamol alongside the ibuprofen as I felt the cramps occur more often. I was bleeding pretty heavy, just like a heavy period. Again, nothing unbearable but still wasn’t pleasant. I passed a few clots nothing major.

Bleeding intensified after 6/8 hours

It wasn’t till around 6/8 hours after the bleeding got more intense that I then passed larger clots. The cramping was pretty bad at this point but soon disappeared. I’m sure I had passed the pregnancy at this point because it wasn’t long after that the bleeding had also become much lighter. However, I still had some mild cramping throughout the night. I didn’t take any pain relief after this because I’m usually one to deal with cramps but everyone’s different.

The following day bleeding was minimal

The next day I was still bleeding but this was very minimal, just like my average period I’d say. I wasn’t sure if this was normal. I was actually frightened that the treatment hadn’t worked because most stories that I had read, most people had experienced quite a heavy bleeding afterwards.

However, a few days passed and I was feeling so much better in myself. I gained my appetite back! And nausea had disappeared.

A week after my medical abortion

It’s now been a week since my medical abortion and I am still spotting. Every now and then I have mild cramping.

My experience was upsetting and stressful but not unbearable

My experience wasn’t unbearable although it is very upsetting and stressful.

I was lucky to have had the support of my partner throughout the entire process. I would try to make sure you have someone with you during the treatment. I also highly recommend a hot water bottle, this really really helped more than anything. Maxi pads you definitely need to have.

I advise having something small to eat once you get home too.

And most importantly try not to worry too much and stress yourself out like I did.

I hope this helps those who are thinking or about to go through this process. Everyone’s different and will experience various symptoms.

Wish you all the best!

This story was sent in on 26/03/2019

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