I lived with my fiancé for three and a half years when I discovered I was pregnant. I was taking the pill so it came as a really big shock.By anonymous on 24/06/2008
I lived with my fiancé for three and a half years when I discovered I was pregnant. I was taking the pill so it came as a really big shock. He didn’t want to keep the baby and had no problem telling me that it would be the worst thing in the world and that he didn’t want to have children with me and I should just enjoy the pregnancy while it lasts. I didn’t know what to do. Who do you talk to? I had to have a scan to see how far gone I was. It broke my heart. I was almost 13 weeks gone when I had the operation. It is coming up to four years ago this October. Since then I married my fiancé, divorced and I am now living with my new boyfriend. It never gets any easier for me; some days are easier than others. I have never talked about my abortion with my ex-husband so I don’t think he knows how much he has damaged me. He is now living with his new girlfriend who has children. How ironic! Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your story…In many stories we receive on this website, it seems that a major factor in a woman’s life when she is facing an unplanned pregnancy is what her partner thinks about it. In your story, you seemed to be quite powerless in response to his opinion, feeling as if you had no choice but to relinquish your pregnancy as a result. That experience has left you with grief, sadness and, I suspect, a fair amount of anger, especially now you know that his new girlfriend has children. I recommend that you seek some post-abortion support from your nearest centre so that you can process what is going on in your heart about your experience, and be released from the emotions you are feeling that keep you living in the past.