9 years on, I still think about it all the time
Sometimes I think 'do I need more counselling?' as I do get so upset sometimes but then I think that I am grieving for a child I lost so I am sure it is normal and I will never just get used to it. My life is good now and I have been with my partner for over 6 years. He tries to understand where I am coming from when I'm upset and we hope to have children together one day. I just hope that I haven't damaged my body in any way by having the abortion.
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in.....your story reflects how many women experience a delay in how they truly feel after an abortion. As you say, it ‘hit’ you and you still get upset on anniversary dates. It’s a very real anniversary, not one easily ignored. It sounds like you are remembering the pain of your loss each year - it’s quite natural to have some tears at that time. Perhaps it would help you to talk with someone who specialises in post-abortion counselling who can run through a ‘recovery checklist’ with you? It would be just to see if there’s anything else that you can have some help with. You can visit your nearest centre, call the helpline or go on Online Advisor to do that.