I'm 42 years old and had an abortion last week...By anonymous on 24/09/2006
I'm 42 years old and had an abortion last week. I was 7 weeks pregnant. I had no counselling. I thought it was the right thing to do, given my age. Also, we have three children all in school and thought it would be too hard on them to cope with. Really, we didn't want our life disrupted and I felt really ill and thought that probably I would miscarry or that there would be something wrong with the baby. I didn't even have a scan. It wasn't until I was on the table being examined that I realised that I was having a baby. All I'd thought about before was getting my period to restart. On that table, I froze. I couldn't say anything. I looked at my husband to stop it but he did nothing. It was over so quickly. Now, I can't sleep unless I drink a bottle of wine. I can't eat, and find it difficult to do anything. It's like I'm in a daze. I wish I hadn't done it, wish I'd talked to someone. My kids would have had a happier mum if I'd kept their sibling. My husband thinks we did the right thing. I don't think I'll ever get over it.
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