I feel so sad; I still mourn the baby I should have had.

I feel so sad; I still mourn the baby I should have had. I live with it because you have to, but deep down I feel grief and loss for the baby that would have been 28 years old now. Don’t ever think that abortion is the easy option; it’s the most difficult decision you will ever have to make. Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…It sounds like it might be an anniversary date for you around now and you are feeling the sadness and loss that has burdened you for many years. Abortion is never an easy option; many women make it under duress and then suffer the pain of guilt and loss afterwards. For you, it’s time for healing – 28 years is a long time to be stuck in negative emotion. There is hope and freedom for you – compassionate and kind support is available through your nearest centre. Or you could ring the helpline or use Online Advisor. Our thoughts are with you.
This story was sent in on 30/01/2009

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