I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks.

Hello I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks and found out on my scan when there was no heartbeat.
I was so upset this was my third pregnancy I have two boys 8 and 6 with no complications in their pregnancies, both full term and healthy.
I went into hospital for medical management and bled for 5 days after.
It's now been nearly three weeks, I feel empty inside and still upset but these sites have helped reading how common miscarriages are.
Me and my husband want to try again but we so afraid of the same thing happening and having to deal with it all again. What are the chances of another miscarriage? And have others tried to conceive again with waiting for there 1st period after miscarriage?

Editor's Comment

It is difficult for anyone to answer your question definitely. They think that about 1 in 3 first pregnancies miscarry, and as you say it is a very common experience. It may help you to look at the nhs website which explains how often miscarriage can happen, common causes, and how to give yourself the best chance of a healthy pregnancy. In the end miscarriage is sometimes impossible to explain, and you certainly should not blame yourself in any way as there is nothing you can do to prevent it. It is usually better to wait for one period so that the lining of your uterus can shed once and hopefully be healthy and ready to receive a fertilised egg. It also means you will be more sure of your dates counting from the first day of a last period. Please call the national helpline if you would like some more information, or someone to talk to.

This story was sent in on 10/09/2014

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