An unplanned pregnancy at 39
By anonymous on 30/10/2010I'm a 39 yr old with 2 kids, one aged 20 and one 23.
I've been with my partner 4 yrs, we both decided we didn't want kids, as he also has 2. I was on the pill but after a visit to the dentist was put on antibiotics, which resulted in me becoming pregnant, me and my partner were in shock, but got over it and decided that it wouldn't be so bad.
He then told his parents and family, who were dead against it, their reasons being we were too old, and it would affect his 10yr old, saying he would feel left out, which wouldn't be the case.
He demanded I now get an abortionAnyway, he came back from his parents and demanded I now get an abortion, saying if I don't he won't be sticking around, which he hasn't.
Now I am in this predicament that I do not know what to do.
Do I have this child on my own, or do I have an abortion to save our relationship, if it can be saved, cos im not sure it canI feel as if I would always resent him for it and keep bringing it up. I really want to have it, I really don't want an abortion, but I'm scared of doing this alone, I am 12 weeks gone.
He is also giving me the mental torture stuff by saying things like 'I'm selfish to do it', and 'if I go ahead he'll tell everyone I'm just scum as he didn't want it and didnt have a choice'.
All I've done for 2 weeks is cry, I feel that I really need help with this.
I told my doctor, who basically said I was in the driving seat and it's my decision. Is it selfish to go ahead and bring a baby up alone? Am I scum for not doing what he wants? My head is all over the place. Any advice or help would be appreciated