An unplanned pregnancy in an unhappy relationship

I am 38 and have 4 children, youngest aged 1. I have a very unhealthy, unhappy relationship with my partner and we separated in February but started seeing each other again a few weeks later.
I have very interfering parents who judge everything I do, and I don't want to tell them we are back together because of how they will go on.
To make matters worse I have just found out I am pregnant again 6 weeks.
I had a termination in September 2011 when my baby was about 6 months old because I couldn't cope with another baby after my experience when my youngest was born.
My partner was out all the time from the day I came out of hospital until 11pm to 1pm every night and from lunch time.
I found it really hard coping on my own and had to rely heavily on my 14 year old daughter to help.
I am scared of the same situation again. And part of me feels that I want to ask partner to leave because he's selfish and unsupportive, and go through pregnancy myself. But I don't have any family or good friends nearby to support me, and I think that's what scares me. Are there any support groups that could be there for me in the first few months when the baby is born because that is the time I fear most by myself.

Editor's Comment

It sounds as though you need to make some decisions about your relationship, and talk to your partner about how you are feeling. If he is not prepared to help you and support you, then you are likely to feel more and more resentful of his behaviour. From what you have said it sounds as if you are planning towards having the baby, and you will cope better if you are clear about whether your partner is going to support you or not.
I think it would be good to have some support group around you and I would suggest contacting your nearest pregnancy support centre to see what they can offer and whether they know of local support groups in the area. find a centre for pregnancy support in your area.

This story was sent in on 03/04/2012

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