5 weeks pregnant conflicted about keeping it or termination.By anonymous on 12/06/2012
5 weeks pregnant conflicted about keeping it or termination. Boyfriend wants termination?
I am 21 2nd year of uni and recently discovered I am pregnant.
I told my boyfriend (33 yrs old ) we have been together for a year and a half and he wants me to terminate it.
He says he is not ready for a baby because he is really messed up financially but he would like to have one with me in the future.
If I terminate this pregnancy it will be because of him but I am scared that it will affect my mind completely.
On the other hand if I have a baby I will lose him and I really love what we have as a couple. I mean it will be hard for me to raise a baby in uni.
I don't know what to do.
This guy has had a girl who had an abortion before.
I also hate the fact that I put him in such a situation and I feel really bad. Please help. Male opinions are appreciated.
Editor's CommentThis is a very difficult decision for you because your boyfriend has said so clearly that he does not want a baby yet, and you are still at university. It is important that you don't make the decision just for him. It has to be the decision that you feel comfortable with and is right for you. If you make it just on his feelings it is likely to be something you regret, particularly if your relationship does break down despite you doing what he wants.
You said that you feel bad putting him in this situation, but it is a joint responsibility. When you choose to sleep together there is always the chance of contraception failure and that is both your responsibilities. If you are feeling uncomfortable at the idea of having an abortion then you may find it helpful to listen to what your heart is telling you. If you would like to talk to a practitioner about your situation, there are male and female on the national helpline, and we can link you up with a male practitioner if that would help you. Please call 0300 4000 999.