I'm 21 and recently found out I'm pregnant around 4/5 weeks

Hi there, I'm 21 and recently found out I'm pregnant around 4/5 weeks as I tested after missed period, I have a long term partner of almost 4 years however we are not living together.
This is now the 3rd time I have been pregnant on the contraceptive pill and I cannot go through with another termination, it was only last year.

I feel so ashamed.

I have not told my partner yet as I am worried for his reaction.
I only work part time (20 hours) and am studying and my partner works full time only taking home about £1000 a month at the moment.
I have been looking for private rented properties etc but don't know what help is available, I do want this baby and I have made up my mind. I just can't tell him at all which is silly I guess I know that I need to tell him soon.
Just really need some advice on what help's available and everything else from someone non judgmental.
IF you could email me back asap I would be very grateful.
:) please try not to judge me :(

Editor's Comment

I'm really sorry that I can't email you back as this is a 'no reply' site so I don't actually get your email address. I would say that your contraceptive failure is not your fault, it is just a fact of life that contraception is never 100% effective, even sterilisation! You have been unlucky to have this happen 3 times, but your partner is just as much responsible as you are. If you have a sexual relationship there is always a chance of pregnancy. If you call the national helpline, we can get you in touch with a local pregnancy choices centre where they will be able to give you information about the help and support available. The number is 0300 4000 999.

This story was sent in on 20/06/2012

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