I am 26 ,and have just found out I am pregnant
By anonymous on 19/10/2013I am 26 ,and have just found out I am pregnant, so should be about 4 wks. The father and I met a year ago, and have been having a fling on and off ever since, but at the same time I was still in relationship with my boyfriend of 4 yrs. We were great together, but the last 2 yrs of our relationship, have been long distance and it got difficult. 4 months ago my boyfriend proposed,and I said yes, though in doubt because I felt I had feelings for the ' fling guy', but it felt like the right thing to do.
I am still in a long distance relationship with my fiance.
My dad fell critically ill, and having siblings all living abroad, I found myself alone and scared, having to make life or death decisions and being strong for my mum.
Everyone seemed to be relying on me, and I wanted a shoulder to cry on myself, but my fiance for his own insensible reasons didn't come (lives 10hrs drive across border).
Now the other guy, stepped up and was there, running up and down with me looking for whatever treatment or investigations my dad needed.
So obviously, bottled feeling resurfaced, and wrong as it was we started seeing each other again. I felt so guilty, told my fiance the truth, broke up, though he still wants us to work it out.
2 weeks later, I slept with the 'fling guy', and now I'm pregnant and don't know what to do. Part of me was hoping I could make things work with my ex, despite having feelings for the other guy.
I can't help but feel, it would have easily been ok being pregnant,if it was my ex's baby, probably because we were together for so long. Please help me figure this out. I am not for abortion, but I don't know if I can handle being pregnant and breaking the news.
Editor's CommentI think you will have to decide which relationship you are committing to, because having the 2 relationships is going to be complicated and confusing.
You keep referring to 'fling man' which suggests that this relationship is not a long term committed relationship in your mind. If you want to try and mend your long term relationship but keep the baby then your boyfriend will have to accept that you come as a new package, and be prepared to take this on. If you would like to talk to a pregnancy practitioner please contact CareConfidential. find a centre for crisis pregnancy support in your area.