I am 22 years old - I have just found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant by a man I have been 'seeing'.By anonymous on 28/03/2009
I am 22 years old - I have just found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant by a man I have been 'seeing'. I am already a mother to a 19 month old. I just thought maybe abortion would be the 'best?' route for me as I have very little money and support. Yet I can't help that maternal feeling telling me how utterly selfish I am to even consider an abortion. I am torn in two. Do I see Xmas day as a single woman with 2 children, providing for them on a low income and struggling mentally to cope. Or do I just have my baby? I can’t sleep thinking about this. I feel awful.
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…You are really torn between the pressure of your circumstances and the deeper feelings you have about your pregnancy. It’s very important that you don’t just ignore these deeper feelings on account of your circumstances, but that you take time to explore all aspects – the pressures, your conscience, your beliefs about pregnancy and being a mum, and your instinctive feelings. You need the opportunity to explore what’s involved, both good and bad, about all the options available – parenting, abortion and yes, even adoption - so that you know in your own heart and mind what you can live with. You have the right to make an informed decision, not one based on fear, panic or pressure. Visit your nearest centre for time and space to do this properly, and for the support you need in your decision, whatever that is. We’ll be thinking of you.