I can't believe I'm in this position at 39, nearly 40.
By anonymous on 31/03/2009Hi, I'm 39 years old, been separated from my husband for two years and just started dating someone for the past three months…things are great between us and I think I'm falling for him. We both have children...I have two: aged 11 and 7; he has 4: aged 19, 18, 15 and 3 and he is a widow. All the kids are very happy that we are together except his 15-year-old daughter who will not even meet my children or me. I can't believe I'm in this position at 39, nearly 40. I need any advice you can give me. My boyfriend said he will support whatever I choose...keep the baby or abortion.
Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your story with us…It seems as if you are going through some significant changes right now – new relationship, new ‘family’, new pregnancy. There is a sense of optimism about your relationship despite the current difficulties with the 15 year old daughter, but you don’t really say much about the pregnancy itself. Perhaps you are feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the change you are going through; perhaps you feel you want the pregnancy but you’re not sure about it at this stage of your relationship; or perhaps it’s more about being 39 and starting again. It’s probably a combination of all these things, so it’s important to talk about the circumstances, yes, but more than that, your deeper feelings about the pregnancy – your conscience, instinct and beliefs. Make an appointment at your nearest centre to talk it through with someone who understands the pressures of your situation, or ring the helpline. Make sure your decision is an informed one, rather than one based on fear or panic.