I am totally pro choice but abortion was not for me.

By anonymous on 10/05/2011
Me and my boyfriend had been together for about 6 months when we found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. As far as we knew there was no way I could have been because we thought we had been completely safe but obviously something somewhere down the line had gone wrong.
It was a complete shock which I did not take very well at first, I panicked at the thought of having to tell my family and friends. We are both only just turning 21 and heading into our 4th year at uni so the whole thought of having a baby got in the way of all my plans.

We googled for help and found out about CareConfidential and showed up at a drop in session the next day where we discussed all possible options.

At the very start I was set on not doing it, pretending it never happened but after the first appointment I was more confused. Also the more I talked with my boyfriend about it the more I could see he wanted to keep it.
Then one morning I read a story on the web site of a woman's abortion that really freaked me and made my mind up straight away. I could not live with myself after, I am totally pro choice but abortion was not for me. Since then I have told my family and arranged to take a year out of uni while my boyfriend finishes.
We are decorating our flat and moving in together and having our first scan in a week. I definitely made the right decision in keeping my baby and even though it has been a struggle coming to terms with everything. It put a real strain on our relationship but we are getting by it and even starting to look forward to it.
I do worry that if I hadn't spoken to anyone within CareConfidential I would have made a decision that I would have regretted.

Editor's Comment

It is good to hear that the counselling worked well for you, and that you were able to make an informed choice. It is easy to panic and feel that you should have an abortion because of your education, but you have found a solution that has overcome the difficulties. You can finish your course after the baby is born and although this may be hard work it sounds as though you are really happy with your decision and looking forward to the future. If you would like to tell me which centre you attended I can post your story on their website too.

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