A change of mind at the abortion appointment

I found out that I was pregnant and it was the biggest shock of my life. I had been with my partner for 2 years, but I was only 20 and felt trapped and scared and thought that the only way out would be to have an abortion. The pregnancy was not planned and I was just starting out my career, it couldn't have happened at a worse time for me. I was living with my partner 6 days a week in a 2 bed flat that he shared with his flatmate. How were we supposed to bring a baby into that?
Every circumstance in my life left me the one choice to go ahead and have the abortion, even though deep down I knew I wanted that baby.

After a long 3 weeks and a lot of support from the Care Confidential team my abortion appointment was finally here.

I couldn't sleep, and I was petrified.
I was 11 weeks pregnant by then and I still couldn't shake the fact that I knew I was making a huge mistake. At my appointment I had a scan to date the pregnancy, I asked to see the screen and that little image changed everything. I told my partner I wanted the baby. He was a little unsure too but he said if I wanted it, we would make it work.
Now I'm 20 weeks pregnant, we are moving into a new house this month, my family have all been very supportive and things could not be going better! I cannot believe that 9 weeks ago I was about to abort my first child, and I cannot see things being any different to how they are now. The support I received from the Care Confidential advisors made me realise I could do this, and if it wasn't for them I don't know what position I would have been in right now. I couldn't be happier with my new baby on the way!

Editor's Comment

I'm so glad that you were able to talk through your decision and make a choice that you are really happy with. Unplanned pregnancy can often be a huge shock and frightening to feel out of control of all the things you had planned. However circumstances do change all the time, and what seemed like an impossible situation has changed around for you. I am sure the CareConfidential team will be encouraged when they read your story on the website.

This story was sent in on 16/12/2011

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