An unplanned pregnancy for an engaged couple
By anonymous on 18/02/2012I've been in a relationship since my senior year of high school. It's been almost 4 years now. We've been through it all. Ups and downs. Last Christmas he proposed. And of course I said yes. I mean we're 21. Graduating college in May and happy.
We do nothing but focus on each other and how to make it through life by one another's side. Towards the end of January I found out I was pregnant. This changed everything. My fiancé was devastated and scared. And honestly. He was so harsh towards me. A couple weeks went by and I thought about and discussed my options.
I pretty much decided I'm going to keep OUR baby.He says it's my decision but he's still trying to make his.... If he's ready for this or not.
I really had a hard time hearing this. What's love mean? He put a ring on my finger and what for? We conceived on New Year's eve. And we were not careful. We were actually very intoxicated to be exact. So it took two to play those cards and now he wants to walk out!!!
I've begun to get down and almost depressed about being pregnant. I had beforehand convinced myself to be strong and happy. Now... Knowing I most likely will be alone, I'm not happy about it.... I wake up and some days I want the baby others I don't.
I feel as if I should follow through and let God have the control. But. It's my life. And I have to live with it.
I wish I had answers
Editor's CommentYou must be very hurt and disappointed that your fiance has responded in this way. He may be taking longer to adjust to the news and the changes that it will bring to his life, but while he is processing all of this you are having to carry the burden of making your decision, and the possibility of being a single mum. It is completely understandable that you feel as though you are going up and down, and struggling to remain positive.
You need to work out what support systems you can put in place to help you. Do you have family and close friends who will be there for you? It would also be good to be able to talk through your thoughts and feelings. I am sure there will be times when you could feel that the abortion route would be easier, but could also bring a lot of heartache if it goes against your values and beliefs. Please call our national helpline if you would like to talk this through.