I made a drunken mistake.

I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We've had a few problems of late and I made a drunken mistake and slept with an ex. if I remember rightly the first day of my last period was 2nd jan 2012. I slept with the ex 16th and 21st Jan. I would of slept with my boyfriend before these dates but don't remember the exact dates. I did a clearblue digital test (it tells you roughly how far gone you are) and it said 2-3 weeks, but on the box it said my doctor would work it out to be 4-5 weeks of pregnancy. I had a scan on 16th Feb as I was going to go ahead with a termination as I was unsure, and was told I was 6 weeks 4 days. If that scan was right, I am now 8 weeks and 6 days. Online conception calenders are saying it was conceived 16th Jan, but I don't know what to believe. I'm unsure who the father is, what should I do? it's driving me crazy. I'm not eating or sleeping because it's all I can think about :(

Editor's Comment

It is very difficult to be sure about who the father is if you have had unprotected sex with 2 people during the month. If you have a regular 28 day cycle then the most likely time of ovulating when you release an egg is between day 10 and day 16 which for you would have been between the 12th and 18th January. Sperm can last up to 5 days after unprotected sex so you could have fallen pregnant as early as 7th January. The only definite way of finding out would be paternity testing after the baby is born. You don't mention if you had been using any contraception with your boyfriend over the last 3 years, but if you have never used contaception and then fallen pregnant now it would seem more likely that it was not your boyfriend's baby. What you have to decide is whether you are going to continue with the pregnancy because it is your baby, and not worry too much about paternity. In the end it is probably better to be honest with the 2 men concerned as it is going to be hard for you to live with this secret and the uncertainty. Please call the national helpline if you would like to talk further about this 0300 4000 999, or log into Online advisor.

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