I'm 6 weeks pregnant with my boyfriend who is 20 years older than me.

I really need some impartial advice. I'm 6 weeks pregnant with my boyfriend who is 20 years older than me. We are both bartenders but I luckily have my degree. My boyfriend really really wants the baby, it's the right time for him, my mum wants to be a grandma so she would love me to have it. I had a termination before, and it was a very traumatic experience. I feel very selfish as I'm not sure that I want it? I feel like I'm not ready to give up my body, my future career. I don't know if I can be alone with the baby at night while my boyfriend works. I feel like I'm not sure I ever want a child, I am finding this a very hard decision to make.

Editor's Comment

I think that from reading your post you have some anxieties about being pregnant and parenthood that are driving your decision. It would be good to talk these through as a decision based on anxieties like these may not be the best one.
If your relationship is important to you and you see it as long term, choosing abortion will put an enormous strain on you both given that your boyfriend really wants the baby.
It can be much harder choosing abortion in a loving, long term relationship, compared to say a casual relationship. It might help you to have a talk with your mum to find out how much support she is able to give you. find a centre for pregnancy choices support in your area.

This story was sent in on 01/11/2013

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