I found out I was pregnant June 17 2013

I found out I was pregnant June 17 2013, 23 years old, still in college and having the time of my life. I was on birth control and exactly a week late on my period so I decided to take an at home pregnancy test. I was slightly shocked when I saw the double bars but something told me I already knew it was coming. I cried and I called my mother for support. I was so unprepared.
My boyfriend and I had been on and off for about a year when I took that test. His father left his mother and it has made him a very closed off person with a huge wall to break down. I knew he wouldn't react well to the news, and I was right. I decided to spend one last wonderful day together with him before I broke the news. That night, I told him. He cursed our child and told me I had to get an abortion. I was heartbroken.

The next day, I went to a dr. appt to confirm the news and he wouldn't come with me. He demanded that I tell him the news through text while he was drunk with his friend. I went to his house and he met me there and broke up with me. I was devastated. This was when I needed him most and he threw me out like trash. I started considering my options and I decided to get an abortion. We made the appt and went to the clinic but I knew I just couldn't do it and I decided to tell him I was keeping it. I knew he wouldn't be there for either of us, but I had to do what was right. God gave me this gift and there are many people out there who don’t have the opportunity to carry a child. I couldn't be as selfish as him.

Months go by, I go to drs. appts alone and go through the changes to my body without him, however I always kept in contact and invited him and gave him the opportunity to be involved. I chose to be the bigger person when everyone around me scolded me for this.

Editor's Comment

A lovely outcome after such a difficult and painful start. You were brave to make that decision knowing that you could be bringing up your child alone.
This story was sent in on 29/04/2014

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