An abortion I now wholeheartedly regret

About 3 years ago, I was involved with a girl for about a year.
When I realized that I wasn't in love, and our relationship felt forced, I ended things. We spoke a couple of times after, but it was argumentative.

Two weeks later, she told me that she was pregnant

We weren't sure that we should bring a child into a rocky if not totally dissolved relationship. We decided that an abortion was the right decision, and so we went through with it.
Now, I realize that it was the worst, most selfish, immature act that I have ever committed in my life (and will likely ever commit). It has definitely led to an intimacy issue for myself. I whole-heartedly regret this decision and wish that I had truly thought this decision through.

Editor's Comment

Thank you for sharing your feelings about a very difficult decision. It is not always easy to work out how you feel about abortion, and for you pain has surfaced from your heart which suggests that abortion may have been going against your inner values and beliefs. I wonder if it would still be helpful for you to talk about how you are feeling and try to get to the bottom of your regrets. Please call the national helpline 0300 4000 999 or follow the link to find a centre for post abortion support in your area.

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