Blighted Ovum - my pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 12 weeks

My husband & I were so excited to begin trying for our 2nd child, we got pregnant one month after trying and were so excited.

Around week 8 we went to the doctor for our first prenatal checkup and during the ultrasound, the nurse explained to us that she saw a gestational sac but there was no baby in the sac.

We were devastated, we went all these weeks so excited about our new baby and telling our family and friends only to have to now deal with the fact that we were carrying an empty sac, our baby had stopped growing weeks before.

My body wouldn't come to terms with this diagnosis and wouldn't miscarry on its own like we hoped for. We waited until 12 weeks then had another ultrasound done only to confirm that what the nurse said 4 weeks ago was true.

This was the day after Mothers day and all hope was lost and we were so hurt.

I was told that I would be given medicine to insert into myself to make the miscarriage happen. I immediately broke down into tears as my husband grabbed hold of me.

Not only did we lose our baby but I would have to basically give myself a miscarriage at home instead of my body doing it naturally.

We had to come to terms with our situation and tell family and friends the sad news. Many of them didn't say much and actually became really distant from us like they were avoiding us. My friendships have changed because of this.

Experiencing a miscarriage was the worst physical pain I've ever been in, it to me was worse than giving birth to our first child. Not only was it physically draining but emotionally I'm a wreck. Why do these things happen?

And to make matters worse everyone around me is pregnant and all they wanna do is talk about their pregnancies and bellies and it makes me want to just die inside. I don't know if I will ever get over this :( 

This story was sent in on 17/06/2015

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