I am 16 years old and pregnant

I really need some advice and help. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and now I am 16 years old and pregnant. When I found out I was devastated but my boyfriend was supportive. I had no idea what my family would say (I live with my mum, step-dad and two older step-brothers). Normally, they favour my brothers with whatever they do and I feel pushed to one side - sometimes it's as if I'm completely invisible. But that's not the end of my problems. I'm quite small-framed, so when I first found out I was pregnant I decided to keep it hidden for as long as possible, only telling my boyfriend. I have been wearing some of my more baggy clothes and was still able to fit into my school uniform. My friends have just assumed that I'd put on a bit of weight.

I am now 6 months pregnant and surprised that no one still knows.

I'm getting more and more paranoid about people finding out, and now I have no idea how to tell everyone. My boyfriend and I, from the moment we found out decided to keep the baby (we now know we're having a little girl!! despite all this uncertainty I am excited to meet her!) but I really did not think about telling everyone after keeping this from them. I've been having panic attacks just thinking about it and now I'm worried that the stress might be causing problems for my baby. I've been telling my mum that I have extra classes/after school clubs so that I can go to doctor check-ups but I don't know how much longer this will work. She's due on February 28th, and as I haven't told anyone, I have no baby stuff in the house. I'm worried about what my friends and teachers will say (it's a private school and there are some real bitches there) so I'm thinking about dropping out of school. It's not something I really want to do but at the moment it's all I can think of doing. My mum hasn't even seemed to notice me getting bigger, and surprisingly this has upset me , when it should be relief?? it's as if she doesn't care about me. When she finds out I hope she's supportive and forgives me for keeping this from her, but a part of me thinks that she won't. Please help me, I really don't know what to do, I just want this secret to end but I don't know how to do it.

Editor's Comment

A difficult situation and a hard secret to have kept for so long. I wonder if there is a family friend, Aunt or some older person that you could tell first to break the secrecy? maybe someone who would be able to go with you to break the news to your family. If you can't think of anyone, there maybe a crisis pregnancy centre near to you, and one of their advisors could go with you to support you in breaking the news. I think it's important to act soon as you will need time to prepare, and you could go into labour early. for unplanned pregnancy support.

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